🗓️ March 11th, 17:00 EDT/ 23:00 EET 🎟️

The link will be sent to all ticket holders 24 hours prior to the workshop  This class is being recorded

This workshop explores the emotional and relational power of saying no, not as rejection, but as clarity, care, and deep consent. Through personal storytelling, guided journaling, and group discussion, participants will unpack what it means to say and hear no with honesty and integrity. We will explore how refusal can build trust, prevent resentment, and preserve connection across kink dynamics.

In this class, we will explore:
• The emotional function of saying and hearing no
• People pleasing and rejection sensitivity in kink dynamics
• Unspoken boundaries and emotional avoidance
• Repairing trust and connection when no is not said soon enough
• Practical language, scripts, and strategies for tops, bottoms, switches, and those still finding their voice

This session invites emotional maturity and brave reflection, not perfection.

Consent warnings:
• Boundary crossing
• Rejection
• Consent negotiation
• Emotional harm from misaligned consent
• Mentions of emotional avoidance

**Required materials:**
• Writing tools
• Notebook or journaling device

Meet your presenter:

Sarai311 (she/her) is a BIPOC kink educator, poet, and event organizer with a decade of combined experience in both classroom and community learning spaces. She brings eight years of formal teaching experience and three years of active kink engagement into her workshops, merging curriculum design, emotionally grounded facilitation, and embodied pedagogy with lived experience.

She is currently a doctoral candidate, where her research explores identity development, emotional labor, and culturally responsive pedagogy. This work directly informs her approach to kink education and facilitation.

In the kink community, Sarai311 has served as a Dungeon Monitor, demo bottom, and board member for Whippersnappers TNG. During her time on the board, she led DEIA initiatives and supported the organization’s transition into an LLC. She is also the founder and lead organizer of BIPOC at Frolicon, a collective that centers Black and Brown voices through curated programming, parties, and community restoration.

Sarai311 teaches across the Southeast, offering kink foundations, emotionally strategic intensives, and BIPOC centered educational spaces. Her work has been featured at Frolicon, ConNooga, and Kink Down South. She is the author of What We Could Never Be, an erotic poetry collection rooted in BDSM, grief, and healing.

Known for her emotional precision, cultural intentionality, and powerful presence, Sarai311 creates spaces where kink, identity, and self exploration can fully and safely coexist, especially for those who live at the intersections of complexity, care, and clarity.

Note: All ticket bookings are final and non-refundable. 60% of proceeds go to our presenters.